Being an escort is a very fun and exciting career; you’ll create some of the best moments of your life whilst meeting some truly interesting people. Besides all of the enjoyment, there are a few things that need to be considered with a more serious attitude. The main issue here is maximising your own safety. Checks should be put in place to achieve this before any of the fun begins. The industry has developed a ‘Golden three’ rules over time that are the basis of your safety, which follows these steps:
- Make sure you research all you can about your client
- Make sure your client can’t research much about you
- Eliminate all risk when thinking about your health
Set out your terms of service
When you first start out you might not have much idea about what you expect from your client or what they want from you. But this will all become pretty clear within a few short days of experience. Once you’ve got to grips with how the industry operates you can start to set out your ground rules that should be abided by at all times. Get these down early on so that you can remain consistent, but you can always adapt as you grow and learn. Here are our top tips for you to think about:
- Don’t expose your true location or residency to clients. Meeting on neutral ground is always best, but if you trust a client enough to go to them then this isn’t uncommon. If you’d rather they came to you, try and find somewhere comfortable but not too secluded, like a hotel room or a temporarily rented apartment. This will help you to remain a little more anonymous.
- Be as clear and obvious about your service online as you can be, without being too explicit. Clients should be familiar with industry abbreviations and acronyms regarding your services, so include as many of these as you need. The main reason for this is so that you can prevent long chats on the phone that are going to expose sexual activities.
- Only accept a phone call that comes from a registered and displayed phone number. Anything blocked or withheld is just not worth the risk, time or money.
- If you’re choosing to go on an outcall booking, try to make sure that you’re always accompanied by a driver – it makes things quicker, easier, and you’ll have someone there to potentially get you out of trouble.
- There are two things you need to make sure you do when you first arrive to the meeting spot – make sure your payment is handed to you without any issues before you do anything else, and then let the client know that you’ll be texting your driver as standard procedure. Both of these things will give you control over the situation.
- If you don’t bring a driver with you, let a friend or trustworthy person know exactly where you’ll be beforehand, so that you always have one person who’s aware of your movements.
Also read our article “Staying safe when meeting clients”
Take extra care when going Incall
You need to make sure that clients have built up a level of trust with you before letting them anywhere near your own private property. This should only happen on very rare occasions where the client is a consistent acquaintance with whom you have a closer, honest relationship. Letting someone know the whereabouts of your own home is a big deal, so you have to make sure that you’re 100% confident to do so. The best escorts will always put their own safety above a clients’ satisfaction or desires.
Even when you do decide to let someone into your home, you can’t let them start wandering about the whole property; keep the interaction confined to a smaller area of your home in one or two rooms only. It would be advisable for this not to be your own bedroom. You need to have the space to have a ‘client only’ room that’s very much separate from the rest of your home. Keep any valuables locked in private rooms that are out of a clients’ reach. There’s always a chance that your precious items are at risk.
The better Incall option: hotels
It’s completely normal to not want to make regular journeys to other peoples properties if you’ve got frequent clientele. It can get tiring and there’s always a little hint of the unknown. At the same time, you can’t be expected to let people into your home all the time. The best solution here is to offer incalls by staying at a hotel for a few nights at a time. It’s a lot easier for you and also gives you security. It’s a public place with a regular flow of people, so nothing should ever look too suspicious from an outsiders point of view. It’s the perfect way to achieve more of an in-between for outcalls and incalls.
There are a few quick tips to walk you through if you choose to operate through a hotel:
- Everything needs to be organised and in place a little earlier than usual. Make sure you get your room booking a good few weeks in advance and let your clients know about this too, so they can pencil in with plenty of notice.
- You shouldn’t need to take any valuable items along with you other than the obvious essentials, so don’t take the risks.
- Remove all of your identity cards/passports from your luggage and purses etc. so that people can’t look deeper into your life.
- Don’t forget to put the “Do Not Disturb” sign on the door.
- Keep the hotel location undisclosed until the day of the meeting or the night before – this prevents clients from making any additional plans.
- Your time is also precious, so don’t give anyone the chance to take advantage of it. Keep clients on their toes by waiting until they’ve arrived before giving them info such as room number.
In order to keep any unwanted attention or detective work away from you, always switch up hotels on a regular basis. You shouldn’t stay in the same place for more than a week as it might start to look suspicious in the eyes of the staff.
Going to a clients property
A paying customer is always going to want to make life as easy as possible for themselves, so you can understand if they might want to enjoy their experience from the comfort of their own home. It’s more private and they’ll probably have a better time, which might lead to you getting better reviews. If you do come across a situation like this, you’re going need a few pointers:
- Request access to a landline telephone number at the clients home so that you can check the legitimacy of the address and whether the client is at home. Use this number to confirm the booking on the day of the appointment.
- You can make it quite clear that you’re only booked in to see them and there shouldn’t be any additional people at the meeting location. If there is, you should always call off the booking.
- Do a quick scout of the location you’ve been given beforehand, just by using an online street view app like Google Maps. Look out for anything unusual or insufficient.
- Have a driver with you to take you to the client’s home. Ask them to wait somewhere near and make your client aware that you have a pick up arranged for afterwards..
This should be a great amount of information to get you off and running, whether you choose to go Incall, outcall, or somewhere in-between. Managing your own safety is paramount for success, so don’t overlook any of the steps mentioned above.